Selfies: Self Love or Narcissism?

Pictures where the user turns the camera to take a picture of themselves is referred to as a “selfie” or self-portrait. Indeed this has been done for eons, however the act became overwhelmingly popular within the last few years spreading like wildfire amongst social media.

I think an occasional picture of yourself is fun for say a new haircut, showing off a new pair of earrings or an experience you really want to remember. Four plus selfies each day is where I find it a bit excessive and just not for me. Did my face change from yesterday? Nope, I am sure it looks exactly the same and right where I left it!

Some might defend their endless selfies and say it isn’t about narcissism but self love. Heck, I am all about self love! The one caveat with this theory is self love requires no validation of any kind because it is internal. Once that selfie leaves the confines of your iPhone camera roll and uploaded to the world of social media, it can now be ‘liked’, judged, scrutinized, etc. Self love should be within your heart and require no ego stroking of any kind, it is generated within you.

Where is the line drawn between self love and narcissism? A very interesting article was written by Gwendolyn Seidman Ph.D for Psychology Today in regards to selfies: Are Selfies a Sign of Narcissism and Psychopathy? To me, it seems that excessive selfies aren’t really about self love but indulging personal vanity and seeking praise/validation. Believe me, there are many other fascinating people, places and things to photograph!

Agree or disagree? I’d love to hear your viewpoint!

6 thoughts on “Selfies: Self Love or Narcissism?

  1. Northumbria Feminist says:

    It would be interesting certainly, with regards to this article, to consider how with the rise of social media, the internal has become external; is that perhaps why people see their publishing of selfies as self love? I also think it’s interesting to consider that though for some individuals – certainly myself- who have had low self esteem, likes or comments on a selfie provide a form of validation that is both empowering but also toxic.

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      • Northumbria Feminist says:

        It’s hard, isn’t it? Balancing recognition that for some people this is really what helps them with their aesthetic anxieties, with recognition that we should aim to be promoting confidence which isn’t just based on social media.

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    • rhiannonkarynn says:


      I am all about self love, but not sure a thousand pictures of my face is the solution for, well, anything.

      I did take a moment to peruse the reviews on for the selfie “book” and it was harsh. Harsher than harsh.

      I enjoyed your article and I agree, I am attracted to words that give light and are authentic and true.

      Thanks for reading!



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